acceptance

acceptance. what actually do u understand by this word?

which comes first to your mind. is it accepting others? or gaining acceptance?

i guess for most, the thot of gaining acceptance comes first to mind. i'm guessing. hmm. so what wld u do to actually gain acceptance?

for one, most ppl will try to fit into the crowd. this is usually the most common way of making friends, knowing new people. just being simple, nice, friendly, un-opinionated will usually earn ur way through large groups and cliques.

some, being a 'natural leader' will usually lead ppl into their own groups. they will try to do smth out of the blue, smth extraordinary to attract ppl's attention. they then forge friendships through the lil attention ppl give them. however, these friendship usually won't last because the attention needs to be sustained. the attention seekers will find different attractions to keep their friends. of course over-time, this gets a lil irritating.

i actually have a tendency to be attracted to these attention seekers. not that i'm dumb and easily tricked into their 'advertisements' but i actually lend them a listening ear. such ppl need listeners and they just need ppl to pay attention to them. haha.

sometimes, especially when they get too obsessed with themselves and imagine that they are the centre of attraction, i really want to just tell them in their face "u don't have to try so hard"

to me, friendships are forged with time. u can't just make friendship out of nth. friendship needs to be built, tried, shared, preserved. i like ppl the way they are. i'm a weird person. if ppl are natural, real, i can easily be friends with them. but, when ppl try too hard to make friends, i tend to shun away from them. i tend to get irritated and hot-tempered. they just try too hard. and i can't stand it.

i don't like forced friendships. just as i dont like arranged marriages. in fact, i hate to be forced. im thankful God doesn't force us. instead, He gives us free-will.

u just try too hard to have friends ard u. u have many friends. but how many are real? only u know. somehow, i feel ur friends are slowly drifting away from u. yes i understand ur plight. ur different. but it doesn't mean u have to be even more different to gain acceptance. u try to be different from what ur stereotyped because u don't want to be treated the same. u want to be treated normally. but have u considered that if ur normal, ppl will treat u normally? u don't have to be so exaggerated. u always think ppl treat u indifferently. that's because u overreact whenever ur not treated as u expect. maybe it's selfishness. mebbe i'm just being cynical.